Men: How To Relate To Women Through Your Inner Masculine Power!
Imagine dating with confidence, with self-assurance, standing in your true male power, with absolute certainty of your masculine self-esteem. Think what it would be like if you knew that no matter what a woman said or did, you'd remain firmly grounded in your masculinity?
And if you could always feel this way, what would it mean for the quality of your relationships with women?
I know this may seem far-fetched to some of you. But here's the sad reality: as men, most of us don't know how to relate to women. Mostly, it's because our fathers never taught us how to do this. This is a problem for almost all men today. They are simply not initiated into manhood. There are no Rites of Passage. The transition between the Hero Archetype and the Warrior Archetype is never made. Here's a book which tells you all about this: Warrior Magician Lover King. It's a book about male archetypes, the archetypes of king, warrior, magician and lover.
Our fathers never showed us how to be the powerful, natural man that women want, the man who makes a woman feel safe, protected, and appreciated - the man who can bring out a woman's deepest feminine side (and that means the sexual "Goddess" in them!).
The bottom line is this: your essential masculine self, your real masculinity, the masculinity contained in your warrior archetype, is designed to complement a woman's femininity in some very specific ways - and then a beautiful sexual and emotional relationship will unfold....just because of your male presence.
For generations, young men were initiated into the ways of manhood by older men, who showed them, in secret rituals and processes run by their magician archetypes, how to end their emotional orientation to women as "mother" and become independent, strong men with an appreciation of adult women as partners in a sexual relationship.
But when did that ever happen to any of us? We were taught to please women, to be good boys, or - even worse - we were taught to shut off our masculinity - often because a young boy's male energy frightens his mother, especially when there isn't a man around to "make it safe".
What an irony. The thing that makes a woman "tingle" most is the sight and sound, the touch, the presence, of a "real" man. And most likely that's not the man she was raising her son to be.....
No, because turning a boy into a man is a man's job. And few men even know that fact, let alone know how to do it. Do you think your father knew how to initiate you into the ways of true manhood? No, of course not.
Result: we grow up wimping out around women, trying to please them, never feeling fully masculine. Worse, we spend our lives trying to heal their emotional wounds from our Little boy's Lover archetype, putting up with nagging, lacking the courage to say what we truly think for fear of upsetting them, just not knowing what to say or do with women.....and giving ourselves away in a million and one ways every day.
Or, in the worst case of all, we never even approach them because we have no sense of who or what women are, and little sense of who we are as men.
Now, I'm giving you a warning: this is not a rehearsal. This is your life, man! So when are you going to take control of it - and get the woman you want in the relationship you want?
Control of everything around you depends on the power of your Sovereign or King archetype. He is the leader in your life.You know something? That decision does not have to be a struggle. You can decide right now to change things. In this instant, you can accept RIGHT NOW that the way you've been living your life around women has to change and that you WILL change it! After all, making that kind of powerful decision is how a man forges his destiny - and that of the world around him.
I invite you to make that decision right now if you haven't already. After all, what could be better than being in complete control of your own life and sexual destiny? The simple truth: if you really want things to be different, they can be - and they will be. Very soon.
Because, believe it or not, there are men around who know what it means to be a man and how to win a woman. Mostly, these men rediscovered this knowledge through trial and error, learning the hard way over a long period of time. But unlike the old days, where the secrets of male initiation were kept to the elders, this knowledge is available to all the men who want to change.... and when you grasp it, you may find you rock your world to the very foundations, and change absolutely how you see yourself.
This information will show you how to be a man at the very core of your being. After all, you have male genes, male chromosomes, a male brain and a male mind, and above all you have the power of your balls and your cock. Think about that glorious masculinity for a moment. It's yours. Do you want to live it?
Your masculinity is lying dormant inside you, like a sleeping giant, waiting for you to rediscover and bring out its power! And that, brother, is no exaggeration. I can tell you, whatever your life looks like right now, you don't even know a fraction of your own strength yet. I know, because I've been down this whole journey before you.
So. This knowledge, this information, will show you how to embody ways of thinking, feeling and acting that produce a sense of total self-confidence when you are picking up, dating or meeting women. It will give you a real sense of masculine presence when you are in a relationship. It will infuse every fiber of your being with a supreme sense of being grounded in your masculinity - no matter what a woman may do to test you.
(Yes, a woman tests a man repeatedly until she is sure he's solid in his masculinity. Only then will she open herself fully - sexually and emotionally - to him. That's not a conscious process - it's just what happens between men and women, and if you don't know how to deal with it, the predictable result will be nagging, arguments, bad feeling and resentment, followed by a lame apology - even when you didn't even do anything "wrong" - making up, and the whole cycle starting again - with probably a lingering sense of shame on your part).
At this point I don't want you to despair. There is a lot to learn about being a man in today's society. But the truly astounding thing is that you can absorb this knowledge easily, and from the moment you start to do so, you'll see your life begin to change. You'll hear people talk to you differently - women in particular - with a new kind of respect that may shock you. At least for a while.
Video - what women want from a man in relationship
After that, you'll come to accept that you really are acting around women very differently. That you're behaving in a way that somehow, almost mysteriously, gets their deepest attention and, as I said before, respect. Like a man, in fact. And then you know you aren't a boy or an adolescent, psychologically and perhaps emotionally, any longer.
The men who can show you this are not Gurus, cult leaders or even especially charismatic individuals. In fact, they're ordinary guys - just like you. They just happen to know certain things that no-one ever showed you.
Think of it as reprogramming how you relate to yourself, the world, and women. But in a safe way - simple, effective, powerful ways of just doing things differently, of thinking about yourself differently, and of relating to women differently. If you think of the Dating Game as a psychological "Inner Game" - by which I mean a game like a tennis match rather than a dubious game of one-upmanship - then you can reframe your expected outcome so that you always win.....the "Inner Game Reframe", it's called.
And actually, it's win-win, since both partners get what they deeply wish for: a relationship with a real woman or a real man, based on respect, equality and strength. These are relationships which give both partners real pleasure (read about that here).
One of the most impactful things anyone ever said to me was: "Stop being a loser in the game of life, and be a winner instead. It's your choice. It's always a choice." Up to that point I hadn't even thought of myself as a loser, and I certainly hadn't seen the need to reframe my thoughts. Wow! What a difference it made. I was in my first real relationship inside a few weeks, and I've never looked back since. And this is how my life should always have been....and yours too.
WHAT MAKES MEN AND WOMEN GREAT IN RELATIONSHIP?
The truth is of course that men want women to romanticize life and the sexy, and feel love; perhaps the problem is that men just don’t know how to do it. For example, if you’re a man in relationship with a woman, when was the last time you complimented her on her appearance?
Not in a stagey way, but perhaps just by whistling at her when she
comes out of the shower?
Why do men give up the chase, why do they give up romance, why do they give up pursuing women? Well, the truth of the matter is that we men are probably genetically programmed to catch women, and to make them feel loved and cherished.
Once we've caught a woman, have sex with her, sex becomes less exciting. There is something deeply biological about this. Meanwhile, the woman wants sex to continue in a romantic and loving way, and she certainly wants a man to stay with her, because if she’s pregnant, and has children, then his protection may be necessary for her well-being. Not so much in our modern society, perhaps, but certainly in days gone by: a man’s presence was essential for a woman to feel safe, and unconsciously, that may well still be true.
So how is it that we all seem to meet partners who are not actually ideal for us?
Well, psychological theory would have it that the reason for this is that we settle down with somebody like our opposite sex parent, and in doing so we find somebody with whom we can try to complete the “unfinished business”.
What this means in psychological terms is that during childhood many of our needs would not have been met, and our unconscious mind constantly strives for a way in which we can get them met later in life.
One way, of course, is to find a person to live with, to have a relationship with, who mirrors the ways in which our parents did not fulfill our emotional needs.
And so of course unless the relationship grows together, people will go on finding that in every relationship they continue to meet people where their emotional needs have not been and will not be met; even if they need to be met, they probably cannot.
The essence of this philosophical and psychological position, of course, is that it takes effort, and a great deal of it, to make a relationship successful. Or if it doesn't take effort, it certainly takes great deal of understanding. It doesn't really matter how that understanding is gained. However, websites like Capture His Heart And Make Him Love You Forever are wonderful ways that can educate men about what the opposite sex wants. They also show you how to enter into a relationship that will provide a sense of satisfaction and pleasure for both partners.
Be a Real Man and capture the imagination and love of your female partner.
So, one of the most obvious and simple ways that you can do this is by reminding your partner that you’re constantly thinking about them: you can make phone calls or send them text messages during the day, you can put little gifts in their luggage and briefcase…. and you’ll be amazed, as a man, if you do these little things, how much a woman’s need for attention appears to diminish.
Men ask all the time why women need attention so much, but what they really need is not so much attention as quality time and appreciation.
In essence, women want to be cherished, while men want to be respected. It’s a fundamental paradigm of all relationships between the two sexes, and it underpins every aspect of happiness and joy that the couple can find together, whether in their sexual connections, or in their emotional connections as they live their lives together.
The Importance Of Sex
Trust me, when you know how to compellingly pleasure a woman during lovemaking, she will respect the fact that you are now in charge of her body. A totally sexually satisfied woman will do anything for her man, and you’ll soon find out how much she’ll do once you've given her this total pleasure. Remember, inner strength is sexy. Now there isn't a doubt who’s in charge, is there?
Sexual Pleasure For Women & Men
One of the most important things I've learned is that even though most women are ready, willing, and able to respond to the man they love, to surrender sexually to him, there are some women who won’t allow an orgasm to happen.
At first this puzzled me, but then in 2010 I received a fourteen-page handwritten letter from a married man who tells about his wife of eighteen years who’d had practically no sexual pleasure in all those eighteen years. He was sure she was unable to orgasm, but after he tried certain techniques, he found out how “hot” she really was. But he had to make her have an orgasm.
She fought him all the way and actually got angry, but he didn't allow her to make him stop, he just continued with the technique (he says he sensed he was finally on the right track) as she got angrier and angrier, till she finally erupted with sexual ecstasy beyond anything he’d ever imagined could happen. He says it changed his marriage and it changed his life.
It really got me thinking as I reread the letter over and over again. An orgasm is sexual surrender, and women who control their husbands are afraid of giving up that control, and are therefore unable and unwilling to surrender sexually. Now, many women are so afraid of losing control that they keep their husbands as little boys. But this makes the wives unable to have an orgasm, because again, an orgasm is sexual surrender, and you don’t surrender to a child, you surrender to someone you look up to and admire, and love.
And of course, some men like to be treated as little boys because this relieves them of any manly responsibilities. And very importantly, if you, her husband, are not a sweet and loving person who lets her know and feel that you really love her, that’s another reason for her to be afraid to surrender sexually.
(Note to wives: Once you start focusing—really focusing—on giving him pleasure and learning how to do this by means of pleasuring him through his penis, the love tide will turn!)
It’s much easier for a woman to surrender to her husband when she feels
loved and cherished.
And where could that fear that so many women have come from? Maybe their mommies or poppies scared them about a lot of things, including sex (fear usually doesn’t come in single packages), or maybe they had terrible relationships with previous men who treated them badly emotionally and/or left them.
Also, if a woman is angry at her spouse (either a low-grade constant or a
flare-up intermittent), she’ll tense up and you could try for an hour and
she won’t respond (she won’t surrender). But when you either make up or
find out the reason for the underlying anger and actively work on
replacing it with respect, trust, and love, that love will start flowing
again and so will her juices.
Now, a very important part of marriage that many men are not aware of (and not many women are either) is that if a woman doesn't respect her husband, doesn't look up to him as a strong person who warrants respect, she may not have an orgasm through his efforts. This is very important to know and understand, because if she feels all respect for him is gone, she will close up physically and emotionally and be grateful she doesn't have to have sex anymore.
Respect can start in the bedroom. All you need is the attitude of taking charge, of letting her know that you sexually are stronger than she is. If you learn how to drive her crazy in bed and make her have an orgasm every time you have intercourse, you will have love like you've never had before!